As young and energetic Malawians continue leaving the country for South Africa to look for greener pastures, Malawi24 has established that wives of such men in Nkhotakota suffer due to lack of financial support.
When such women have been left behind, they lack financial support from their husbands which force them to either divorce the men or engage in immoral acts to earn a living.
Malawi24 caught up with one woman whose husband left the country for South Africa in 2010.
According to Nabanda*, her husband left his home in Traditional Authority Malengachanzi in Nkhotakota with the aim of improving the welfare of his families because the man had two wives.
“The man used to help us during the first years but he just changed from nowhere and basic needs became scarce to us,” Nabanda said.
She proceeded to say that the man even stopped calling the two women and that is when they realised that he had forgotten them.
“We asked elders on what we can do several times but we failed to adapt because we were lacking basic needs that made us divorce the marriages. We left his home and we are in our respective homes,” she said.
Another woman from the same district told Malawi24 that her former husband left for South Africa in 2014 but he never sent her any support.
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“I chose to leave him and I have since married another man in the same village. I did this to have someone to be supporting me because I used to be having several partners to earn a living,” the woman said.
These are just few women in Nkhotakota who are suffering because their men left for South Africa looking for money.
Commenting on such issues, one of the Malawian men who is in South Africa said sometimes this happens because of the little salary that they receive.
He said that the desire to help may be there but looking at the amount of money they use for rentals, transport and other expenses in South Africa, it becomes challenging.
*Name has been changed
I think it would be better if you said some men not men.
How can they support their wives when they can not support themselves. Kkkk I feel really bad for the people who goes to RSA to search for greener pastures when we have the much greener ones here in Nyasaland
vuto ndiloti ine the whole month kudya mazira ndi masamba chifukwa chakufuna Ku saver kadola kut ndimutumizira,hence akumapasaso zibwenzi eish mavuto okha okha
Ku SA kuli akazi ngati zojambula
KKK oky
Don’t repeat to say that
winawe ukuziwilatu…sungayelekedze kumpanga sister wanga ndingakusatire kukauwotcha ..kkkkk
Ine mamuna wanga kungopita Ku job basi banja latha palibe angandiname ndaziona ndi maso
Nanga uli ndi mamuna
angokamba za m’nyumba mwake
Kkkkkk kutani?
True that…
Osamatelo brothers.I hope there is no one from Kasitu who is doing that .I plead .
strange…….Study in Belarus
That’s true
Poor government instead of creating the job there busy stealing money so wat people must do
Akazi onse aku Malawi amaoneka ngati atuluka kumene ku chipatala”!! jst go to south and see their women eshrrr. 100% juice
wrong words’ she should say her husband nt including other’s husband. Some women are enjoying with their South African husband
Ngati thandizo silikuwakwanira asegure chapter China bas, moyo ukulimba uwu
Zoona lol
Aziwona sanaziwone
Akazi apa Mpanje ndiokanika limbani mtima basi
Ziri Boo!!!
Kkkkk those guys who push themselves to that panic country in the name of searching for green pastures and saying here they were suffered or they were on financial crisis they are totally laying because they can’t wait for the government to hand money in there pockets without doing anything, if they say here in Malawi we have a problem of jobless why can’t they start business with the money they used to purchase passport and transport to South Africa? They must be mindful.The Bible said no food to a person, who is just rest,in other words I can say no food to lazy man
Do u mean that govt gave them the money for passport and transport?
If you benefit from zipani my friend keep that to yourself. Do you have an idea that without people coming to RSA they will be no foreign currency. Even you president he was in exile because of green pastures. He just came to be president then after that he will go back. So think before you speak
i think u dnt understand what he [makuluni] trying to say ‘ndalama yomwe mumkapangisila passport mukanatha kuyambila bzness kumalawi komkuno zithu bwezi zkukuendelaniso
Tonse tili ku R.S.A. tiyambe bznes? Kkkk koma guyz nde azigula ndan? In other way sitonse amene timatha bzns komanso olo utapanga bzns-yo ku Malawi udzingolira daily quite. Anzerunu zipangan ine myaz
ndalama yake ndiyochepa yoti sitingapangire bussuness more over tikabwera kuno timapanga ndalama za mbiri sikuti zeru tilibe ayi@cavin benard
Business ya pamalawi inadalira kukhwima kkkk achitaka akuponde hii ayi bola rand yomweyidi hahaha
It all depends how much you think about your wife and kids as for me there is no one who can make me forget my lovely wife and kids I stay in RSA but each and every year I go home and visit them each month I send them something because it took both me and my wife to plan for this trip so why dump her. The beginning of wisdom is the fear of God.
Reality talked by a genius man
You’re welcome
Zisandikhuze ine my wife and son both are here, vuuuuuuuuuu ndadusa ndikatere…………..
That’s why wanga Ali nane pafupi. Ngati ndiuhule ahule pamaso anga. In South Africa they are girls that can make you forget your wife home. So to avoid that call her immediately you get a job. Nanunso akazi akuMalawi if your husband send money don’t waste it like money grows in tree. Anthu akupanga economic kuno kuganizira inuyo kumudzi.
Fact
Zoona bwana Anthu economy akupangadi
Economy kugula madzira, nyemba for the whole month. No beef chicken,no drink,no bread. Akuti ndalama ndikusungira mkazi ndiana kumudzi. While kumudzi mkazi ndalama akupatsa zibwenzi. Kkkk Mavuto okha okha
I gt u brother
kkkkkk finally i have stopped from economising because of my wife at home due to they zibwezi living
Kkkk Maxwell Maxwelli Max my bru. Women are kids the money you send they use to book a room for vrrrrrrpha. Pomwe iwe ukudya mapapu ang’ombe. Bring your wife here and look after her because if you don’t also anyamata amukadzula pakomo lako. Let her work so that things get easy for both of you
This is very true and sad, in fact it is not only women in nkhota kota, the trend is the same in many parts of the country. . . Some of such men end up marrying there abandoning their wives completely. Why marrying in the first place? ??
Akaziwoso China amasiyidwa ndizona ngati nkazi sanapite Ku school samuyitanisa wy pagolo sakhala DZIKO laweni kkkk
Kaka musatelo
Vuto achewa kunyeranso mumisewu mdziko la eni musiye
Iiii Guys zi talkani ife tikuwu3ra bwa a nsenje ndi owonereratu paja ain ake akuwusumana pa joz azikazi athu ma fashion ngat aku kokuno zikumuwawayo zake
A normal woman can’t be independent,
Its true with what women said, to the other hand i could say, in SA life is not easy as at home (MALAWI) . Everything is money life becomes worse if you earn less a 1500 rands. But if married people dont support thier families , they is this what i see in South Afeica
1. Most Malawiam of 65% are married with SA women
2. About 23% have more than 1 sex partner where they expend more to them than home (MALAWI).
3. Lack of staible job, many they work under wages, earning less 80 rand a day which is so bad life.
Living in SA is being strong and brave in mind.
Vuto ndiloti sadziwanso kuti kuno timakumana ndi mavuto kuposa kumudziko and here life is very expensive for one to survive.
ndinasiko mwamuna to work here langizo lotani kkkkkkkkkkkk
I would like to encourage young girls to don’t rush into getting married thinking that a husband is going be there to provide everything you. Learn to be self independence.
U nail it sister kkkkkkkkk
lol
just follow them
Kikiki tryna found out may be got stolen.or else they are at maternity leave at LINDELA.Apo biii zeno yinayendapo.guys tryna support home plz….
Lucky! Siukunama fanz imeneyi ikumashuphika zedi pa johnz.
Ziakazi zili kuno, ukalimbaneso ndi wakumudzi iyaaa
Moyo kusiyana Si onse amatero
Zabodza zimenezi azimayi adera ili kuchuluka uhulu kwambiri,,,,mamuna kubwera Ku joz mkazi miyezi iwiri kumamva kuti ena ayamba kuthyolamo nkhobwe,,,,ndiye utumiza bwanji chithandizo
and this is laughable …ndathandize kuganiza to be be honesty anthuwa kunoko amakhala ali aphawi nde akavaya theba sangakumbukile kuti ali ndi mkazi the reason is more women sadzisamalira they are not sexual attractive. so we men be honesty . komaso be serious do something that can help yourself like muzilimbika geri ..kaya ti ma business than waiting for anyamatawa muzingokhaula..
Sitonse. Bolanso wa jones kuno nkutali, ena amalephera ku sapota mawanja ali ku Malawi konko.ndie iwe Admin asakunamize ameneyo
wachamba ndi mamuna wakeyo ine ndilibe mkazi koma ndimasala abale anga bwanji ndinali ku south afrika komko now ndili ku zambia koma anthu ku malawi kumwa tea chimodzi. Modzi umakhala umunthu obadwa nawo ngati unabadwa chitsilu or uwoloke border ndiwe chisiru basi
Mesa tikakutsanzikani kuti tikukagwira ntchito inu mumanyengetsa kwa makape ena nde mukufuna ife titani??
kmanso azikaziwo asamangodalila amunawo ayi moyo umenewo unatha zinali zakale,akhonza kumapanga tima business tinkono tinkono,osamangokhala azimai aulesi majalende ayiiiiii
in Malawi poverty at its highest level,woman in Malawi are good at complaining and not finding solutions …..how can you live without basic needs ..groceries and clothes no job in your country …..your leaders are there just to enrich themselves not creating jobs for your husband
Ndi zoona mabanja ambiri anasokonekera kamba koti amuna anapita kukafuna nsipu obiliwira. Ena samathandiza kamba kokomedwa ena ndikamba kakuvuta kwazinthu. Koma sionse omwe samakumbukira mabanja awo. Zimangotengera munthuyo. Komaso akazi ena ndi agalu olo kuwathandizani motani amangopezerapo mwayi osayamika kenako ndikungoyamba kuwavulira amuna ena makwalalamu.
Hahaha!! Nsipu obiriwira, kkkkk wandiwaza!!
Kkkkkk eya bro kukasaka nsipu obiliwira kuti mwina ana anganenepeko.
Chilakolako ndi money ndizosiyana mwamuna apite ku joni akakhaleko five years mkazi kuno nyere ikuvuta we have to change
Kkkkkkkkkkk
Musamati nkhota-kota mwangopezana ndi mahule Panjira kapenanso komwe mumamwa kachasu ndiye muziti amuna aku nkhota-kota, uyende mumakhomo mwawanthu ufufunze upeza mwomwe azimai anyadira.
That’s why am still single coz nobody bothers me pa door ndikatumiza ya fertiliser basi kwatha.
Umakwana kkkk
Bola mwazindikila kuziona kuti muzipanga bwanji mkasalamo
sometimes problem are the wives cuz of their behavious of slepping with some men while their husband are sufferling in exile 4 them to live better lyf.if it is such case how can u help them????
Thats a lame excuse, anyway when you leave your wives here for five years without coming once, stuff like that are bound to happen.
That’s very true
And I think this is all happening because we women we think we can nt make it without a man in our lyf,we feel we can’t survive we need. Men by this should b a lesson to all young ladies out there its tym women we should Stand on our own 2 fit and start depending on our self’, we can make it,isay we can survive.
Bodza ili or mutamakwanitsa kuzisamalira nokha. But mkazi azafunabe mamuna. Yeah akazi akuyenera kulimbikira paokha does not mean sangafune mamuna kkkkkkkk
Golo kipala guys ndiovuta watch out!
Yeah, the mentality in Malawi is that, men are the bread winner and women are homemakers.
Are you for real?? I think you don’t need only Jesus,but you need Jesus including all his disciples and Judas Iscariot himself,because malawians women they can’t survive without men,it’s all what you think my sister,the most valuable thing in life for women having a better husband.
alot of women who make it their are those who sleep with alot of men and call themselves survival without men.goshhhh
Uuuh Guyz nkhani sikuchipinda koma financial problemz akazi aziziimira paokha azipanga ma business to suport there families
People I hav Jesus in my lyf Wy do u think am surviving and that was just my opinion and yes we can do without men in our lyf
joakina Jesus didnt say ur better without men.otherwise thus not Jesus u have.
Understanding ndiyomwe yakuvutani baba idnt mean tisakhale ndimamuna I meant kut we can hav our own money do our own business osadalila Mumuna sindinati tisakwatile ayi
Understanding ndiyomwe yakuvutani baba idnt mean tisakhale ndimamuna I meant kut we can hav our own money do our own business osadalila Mumuna sindinati tisakwatile ayi
why you are putting Jesus here ?,,,,,,,my sister here was trying to encourage women to stand on their own so that they may not depend on there husbands financially …..woman with financial stable can still need a man its natural .
Iwe ndiye ine ndikuti chani usanditopese
chinakula masiku ano akazi kuzikweza basi.
True my sister
thats a nice idea
Dzoona tasabwelani muzaone atonga atumbuka akafika kuno inu mukhoza kulira atasintiratu dzuchira ngati ali kwawo kumalawi anthu ochitisa manyadzi
Mavalidwe mpaka zitenje 4 munthu mmozi, poyenda komatu mpingo ngat afika kwao. Madolo ndiye kumwa mowa mpaka chinganga chilire, koma abale angawa! ensenceee
mbuli za a2 amandichitixa manyaz kuwapanga introduce to my foreign friends coz of dere revity en dressing so whach Eish
mtumbuka ndi tonga nde azakhala azimwale mpaka kale.
Kkkkk osaiwala ayao kkkk
Muliratu makosana apa kkk
sniper what’s ur comment
Zopusa a yao atani mukhalira yomweyo bwerani a phwanga tizakuphuzitseni kusoka ulusi ana amuna za matama basi apa! Mtumbuka ndi mtonga ndi amene amatichitisa manyazi kuno
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kkk muyawoso akunyoza nawo atumbuka
Teyenazon… Yawo ndi tumbuka . .pantheba mumaonjeza inu kkkkkkk
Kkkkkkkk
Ndizikayikisa kuti azabwerelaso kumudziko
Inu mukusiya azikazi anu kuno mkumapita jonz osawasapota…. muzidziwa mwasiya mphwando la akakowa kuno kumudzi
Ndiye ngati kuli pwando akuliliranji akaziwo?
Sono akuliliranji mesa kuli phwando??
U masapusi wa ine nde siungamuthe
Upeze wina chifukwa ukalimbana ndiife uchedwa kkkkkkķkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
Kulakwa kuzunza akazi ndi ana
Phuma ndi ukwati ndizozo asalirepo ndi nyere zao zimenezo they wil tolk on last
Ndizoona chofunika tizingowaitanitsa azikazi athuo.
Aaaa shame .its hard here babie
Not all of them doin that.
Yes, I would encourage people in Malawi NOT to move to South Africa. You think that you will get loads of money in Sodom and Gomorrah, but you won’t. SA companies often won’t hire foreigners, but those (more informal ones) who do will pay you less than the locals. Maybe K110,000 a month sounds great to you, but it is literally nothing in South Africa, after transport and food that’s all gone. You’ll live in a shack in the slums made from corrugated iron and cardboard that makes Chinsapo 2 look like Hollywood, and the locals will HATE you because “you are taking their job” (because they are too lazy to work). You won’t be able to send money back to family in Malawi and yes, your family will fall apart. It is really not worth it… plus, most South Africans would leave South Africa if given a chance, it is a living hell over here. The economy is busy crashing, the big foreign companies are leaving. Plus its terrorist government openly hates God and it’s really, really evil in SA. Don’t do it, just because you have poverty doesn’t mean you have nothing – you have far more than people in SA who have more money and possessions but a bad/evil life.
pot mwat ku nkhotakota,,, zisandikhudze am from Mangochi
Mukuchita bwino,guyz azikazanuwa ife tikuagwira ntchito kuno, nkhani ndi mankhwala olera bax pano akumangofuna yasopo, yandiwo,mchere ndikuchigayo sinanga chaka chino m’mere ndi mbwee!
south Africa did not ban malawian ladies to go there just go there also
akut kumazizila koma umasweta ukayamba kugwla ntchto ndeno wina wake nkuzaimba fon ndufuna fasausande ganja bas
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words!!
Ngakhale ochokera pa Chikwawa or Dowa ulendo pa BT or Pa LL ngati ulibe chikondi mkazi wako umayiwalako sizitengera kuti uli Ku Joni or Tanzania, mwitatu admn iwe mlongo wako watayidwa ndiye wangoganiza zonyezera wina aliyetse,
Iwe ndiye walasa nyani……….. ndaonapo ine anthu olima misewu komanso siwokhawo akafika madera ena amayamba chikhalidwe chakumeneko kuiwala ana ndi nkazi.
Kkkkkk 100 kungochoka ku nsanje kufika ku BT. kuiwala banja si jon yokha iyayi
aise wamuwonera patali #admin kkkkk
U hv a point bro
Zoona man mwakamba, amangodana ndi anzathu a joni mixing nsanje
Nkhawa nje guez idyani Ma rand kumeneko osafowoka ndi ma admin ofoilawa yakula ndisanje nawo apa
True story but it’s not fair coz these men here are busy fucking around !!!!
Iwenso uli fucking around
Just bcoz ur dull that’s y u tlk shit ,,I got my family here!!!!
Ndiye kuti azibambawo zikwavutaso siose zikwayendera uko phuma ndi nyere basi
Mwakhuta bonya eti? pa research yanuyi mwapanga interview angati?
very 2ru, most ov vem r running away from their resiponsibilities in ve name of lukn 4 greener pasture.
Yes its true bt the problem is our grnment they dnt care abt poor people.
How? you want the govt to feed each family forget about it and work hard
Hahaha Wax Da Conection!
Wat do u mean dat i want gvernment to feed all families?.Hw many ppl wrking in Malawi?.Yes those ppl is nt dng wrng by running away bcz the1 who go to SouthAfrica they dnt hv something to do so dat they can gt money.So stop nonsense to those ppl.If u gt something to do here in Malawi,Do it nt blame those ppl.4m nw tll ur gverment dat: Those ppl cnt stop to lv this country unless our gverment change n gv those ppl something to do.STOP NONSENSE.
Nop it’s not the Government,why everything the Government,me and my we’re enjoying together here in SA,
The problem is government of Malawi instead of creating the job there busy stealing the money that why people are running away
Taganizani anthu kumavutika ndi njala koma nduna yomwe ili mu undunawo kumapezeka ndindalama zankhani nkhani mnyumba komanso boma osachitapo kanthu.
After 30minutes abwera ndi nkhani ya bulets kkkkk amalawi
Team of the moment. Kkkkkkkiest.
Timu yanga musandinyonzere
Ukufuna kutanthauza kuti chani?
ndizoona enadi akangobwela kuno zoti anasiya nkazi ndi ana amayiwala
simunaone bambo àlipakhomo kumakanika kusamala banja?ndi mtima wamuñthu
mwasowa cholemba?chamba eti ķkk
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